How Can I Get Back Together With Him?

A sample reading using

Universal Waite Tarot
Drawings by Pamela Colman Smith
Coloring by Mary Hanson-Roberts
Conceived by Stuart R. Kaplan
(U.S. Games Systems, Inc.)

QUESTION

What will help me improve my chances of getting back together with my boyfriend?

ANSWER

Here are the cards that came forward for you. Below the cards are the positions I used, the cards I drew into those positions, and my interpretation.

Universal Waite Tarot

1. What you need to know about the situation: QUEEN OF WANDS, reversed

Although the Court Cards (King, Queen, Knight, Page) can represent actual people in the Seeker's life, I find that often they refer to some aspect of the Seeker's personality that is influencing the issue and needs to be explored. The Queen of Wands reversed (upside down) often indicates a demanding temperament, jealousy, deceit, and emotional instability. The "deceit" associated with the Queen of Wands can be self-deception as well. Rather than referring specifically to you or your boyfriend, this could be a description of the energy surrounding this situation. A climate such as this would not nurture or nourish a relationship.

2. Obstacles or challenges to getting back together: FOUR OF CUPS

This card usually suggests a need to overcome depression or regret with a new mental attitude. There may be a tendency to focus on past love experiences -- good and bad -- and this focus on the past may interfere with the ability to enjoy and appreciate a current or new relationship. Old habits usually play a role, and there may be a fear of commitment or fear of rejection involved.

3. Opportunities or positive potential: THE HERMIT

As a Major Arcana card (Key 9), The Hermit suggests that a relationship or situation is of great importance in your life. When applied specifically to a relationship, a Major Arcana card can suggest a past-life or soulmate connection. This can be a powerful element in a relationship (although of course it does not guarantee success). The Hermit often represents wisdom through experience and achieving insight through meditation and introspection. You have an opportunity here to seek guidance -- either from a wiser, more experienced person whom you respect and trust, or from your own inner wisdom and experience. 

It looks like there are a number of issues that could be causing difficulties in this relationship. The cards suggest that simply "getting back together" might not solve all of these problems. Healing will require desire, effort, and commitment from both of you. You can't heal this relationship alone, but perhaps the insights offered by the cards will help improve your chances of getting back together.

Please keep in mind that my purpose is to help you examine and explore the area you have asked about. I don't have all the answers. Some parts of the reading may make more sense to you or be more useful to you than others. It is my hope that the insight gained through this reading will help you make decisions and take action in line with your best interests. Always remember that your future lies in your hands.